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Friday, March 5, 2010

Simplicity of Love

Many of us experience love and find ourselves diving so far ahead that before we know it we become lost - we are lost. Swimming somewhere far out at sea - entranced by the idea of love. Exposing ourselves to another element of living. Then sometimes we experience some of the rocky waves of love, and at times those waves may catch us off guard. But then we find ourselves fighting and struggling to hold on- because this is our life. These are the things we want - or at least we think that we want. In the beginning stages of love we become so lost and fixated on this person and what we believe we see - sometimes blinded by the person that is actually there. We hurt without intending to and we get hurt because we leave ourselves open - and at times we hold on when it's better to just let go. But this is the never ending pain and level of dissatisfaction associated with love. Love transcends all things. Love binds souls! Love feeds and nourishes our very essence. We need to love in our lives. We should embrace the beauty of a passing love and the captivation of a lasting love. But does that lasting love mean that it is always meant to be? Is that love strong enough to withstand the test of time? Is love always compatible? Love being so complicated and fragile, making and breaking us at times. And yet we still find ourselves constantly drawn and intrigued by all the possibilities being in love would or could bring out in each and every one of us. For we feel complete loving and feeling loved - or at least that is the illusion! For those that are still searching and unable to find love believing in the bewitchment of all the illusions - does having love truly complete who we are? Is the quest for love selfish and potentially destructive? When we have expectations for love are we ever really satisfied? When we set boundaries and limitations do we tarnish the beauty of what may actually flourish? I think there are times that we may sabotage our own ability in achieving happiness with love (as hard as that might be to admit). We sometimes could be our own worst enemies especially when it comes to love. Because the ideology of love for perfect balance and harmony is we either fully accept the other for who they are or we don't because change comes from within. Is there ever really a middle ground when it comes to acceptance of love? We love and we feel love passionately. We give ourselves to this experience so naturally - for love simply blows us all away!

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

This is so good I love this is so true it reminds me of my ex boyfriend this is my favorite one of all of them because i can relate to it. my favorite quote is "We hurt without intending to and we get hurt because we leave ourselves open - and at times we hold on when it's better to just let go"...good job girl

Enchantress Thee Babbler said...

Thank-you - I think we can all relate to certain degrees. But thank-you again for reading

Anonymous said...

This is really really great and one of the best of your work. I know this becasue I know you as a person and know where this transpired from. This to me was the icing on the cake explaining every angle every aspect of what love no what YOUR LOVE has been all about. This was very well written from one's heartful experience and journey. My favorite and I quote, "And yet we still find ourselves constantly drawn and intrigued by all the possibilities being in love would or could bring out in each and every one of us". This to me is what love is all about becasue we all have hopes for change but what we sometimes fail to realize is it doesnt take love to get that

Enchantress Thee Babbler said...

Thank-you very much! But the only thing I can say about what you wrote in the end is that I agree and disagree with "we all have hopes for change but what we sometimes fail to realize is it doesn't take love to get that" I would agree if it only pertains to relationships - but if it pertains to love I disagree because we need to have love for ourselves which in turn inspires change. Love ya (whoever you are)

Anonymous said...

Love, love, love...you need to love yourself 1st, then think about how you teach your children to love, accept love, feel about love. Our children learn from our examples, its not what we tell them but the way we live that they will remember!

As you continue to grown in age, with time, in life, you do realize that real love is truly unconditional. It's hard work! A world of compromising, sharing, encouraging, and just truly being there for each other even when it all seems impossible.

Why is it that marriages of 50 yrs+ still exist???? Women were more tolerant, not stupid. Some stayed in horrible marriage for the sake of their children, others because of financial situations, others because of lack of education. May just lived their lives with these partners out of habit (costumbre) routine....is that living a life of love???? Sad! Love will always be a lot of work. ALL RELATIONSHIPS, parent/child, best friends, lovers... need boundaries, trust, honor, friendship, honesty and FUN!

Anonymous said...

Love is not the vessel in the ocean, nor is it the water that carries the vessel. Love is the "sea-sickness" we feel from the rockiness of the voyage. Much like time, love is relevant. Someone you love today can be someone you hate tomorrow. Why is that? Why can you say you love someone but when they change, you don't feel the same anymore. I Love you, but I'm not In-love with you. WTF is that?

Enchantress Thee Babbler said...

How fickle love can be.... if only we had all the answers we wouldn't have many problems. There aren't any guarantees when it comes to love. Doesn't that alone sound so cliche? But what can we do? We love anyways. But what was said above about loving ourselves first is something we should all really consider and reflect on many times in our lives - especially love lives - because we need to ask ourselves if we are loving ourselves enough? For me I feel that once you love - that's it... there is no turning back - love is unconditional. I don't think that the essence of what love is suppose to be about - could be taken away. Even with loves that don't last - you still loved. It may not be with the same intensity as it once stood before - but how can you wake up and love one day and then hate the next? If that was the case I would question whether it was really love to begin with. Emotions get the best of us - people hurt us - and hell on wheels takes over. If it doesn't go our way and we become the victim or the one that gets hurt - does that mean we pull back on our love and don't love anymore? We may say or do things that may appear that way to hurt back - but that's only because of anger - it's not because we don't love anymore. It's mainly because we are angry. And as angry as we may become and as often as we try to ponder what went wrong if we love ourselves enough and know ourselves enough we can build on these things to help us move on - keep it moving - learn from it all - trust in love again when that time comes - and realize it is not your loss - it is theirs!!! But the important thing from all of these building blocks of life is who you become because of it. What you learn about yourself and all the changes that need to be dealt with in yourself along the way. I try not to dwell on the things I can not change - and I try to move with the waves and embrace all that life has to offer me - both good and bad. It's like the concept of evolution - we evolve over time.

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